The Joy of Thriving

The Joy of Thriving

Happiness is a choice.

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  • Happiness Languages

    • 14 May 2012
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    Language is expression, meaning, and purpose. Language shapes our narratives. It is the essence of culture and the core of identity and destiny.

    Our Happiness Languages are the practices that make our expressions and experience of happiness possible. The prime happiness practices are appreciation, generosity, interest, lightness, and easy.

    Each of these languages form the vocabulary and syntax that give our happiness its expression and character.

    Thinking about happiness as a language empowers our possibilities for joy. It takes happiness from being a pursuit to practice. It makes happiness less contingent and more accessible. It makes happiness more of a choice.

    Happiness is a language whose power connects us beyond generations, gender, and geography. It is the expression that infuses our lives with aliveness.

     

  • Announcing the Happiness Workshops & Profile

    • 12 May 2012
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    Announcing two exciting new developments here at TheJoyOfThriving.com: the Happiness Workshops and the Happiness Profile

    There are Introductory and Advanced Workshops, covering the new compelling happiness research and practical applications. And the Happiness Profile is a 50-item inventory that gives you a profile of opportunities to cultivate your happiness practices.

    Email jack(at)happinesschoice(dot)com for more details on hosting, convening, participating in the workshops and using the Profile.

  • The business of happiness

    • 1 May 2012
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    This whole business of positioning happiness at the core of our success indices is grounded in the principle that happier people do better in life and work. Happiness also makes change easier and more impactful. Current research evidence tips overwhelmingly in favor of this perspective.

    Here are 10 qualities of people who are happier through the five prime practices of happiness: appreciation, generosity, interest, lightness, and easy.

    • They are energized by progress
    • They feel more grateful than entitled
    • They live and work with passion
    • They are more flexible and resilient to change
    • They are more interested and proactive in learning and discovery
    • They share more of what and who they know with others
    • They are more generous and present with others
    • They are less intimidated by the difficult and impossible
    • They are easier to live and work with
    • They are more enjoyable to be around

    The less happy people are, the more they experience and exhibit alternative qualities:

    • They are more focused on what they don't have and can't do than what they do
    • They feel more entitled than grateful
    • They look for substitutes for happiness in incentives and proxies
    • They are sensitive and reluctant to change and novelty
    • They are attached to single narratives to the exclusion of learning
    • They expect others to be self-sufficient and not needing help
    • They protect what they have and see sharing as loss 
    • They postpone the difficult and resist the impossible
    • They are difficult to work and live with
    • They are always looking for heroes or scapegoats to their suffering

    Given this profile, making happiness a central indicator of personal and collective thrivancy promises to strengthen relationships in couples and families, communities and networks, organizations and social groups.

    Supporting the cultivation of happiness is about education. Period. It is about people becoming more literate in the practices of happiness, more knowledgable about the science now behind happiness, and understanding how to help make happiness a core success indicator in personal and collective contexts.

  • Can We Become Happier?

    • 22 Mar 2012
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    When I recently asked this question to a sample of the happiest people in the world, they resonated with a resounding yes. It is their experience that happiness is a practice that can be learned and cultivated as a habit. For these people at the higher end of the well-being continuum, happiness is an action we engage. It’s about doing more than having.

    These are the perspectives gleaned from the research I did for “The Joy of Thriving” with 300 people across geographies, genders, and generations. It is also what neuroscientists around the world have been finding. And what countless empirical and clinical studies prove with conclusive long term evidence.

    Neuroscience gives us the principle of neuroplasticity. This is the now data rich fact that our brain has no permanent structures. Everything that we identify ourselves as, starting with habits of thinking and engaging in our world, are chemical patterns in our brain that can be reshaped with new habits of action. Our intentional habits of action are responsible for all of the continuities and changes we experience in who we are in our world.

    In as little as six weeks of any new practice, we start to develop new measurable habit patterns. So the more we engage the prime practices of happiness, the more we literally restructure our brain in ways that make happiness more possible.

    We can intentionally develop our capacity for happiness. We can also develop and sustain our capacity for any form of unhappiness imaginable.

    The research for the book identified five prime practices of happiness that the happiest people around daily engage to cultivate their capacity for happiness: appreciation, generosity, interest, lightness, and easy.

    Appreciation is a grateful and passionate heart. Generosity is sharing what brings mutual joy. Interest is discovering new people, spaces, and things. Lightness is a sense of aliveness. Easy is the grace of simple. At least one practice is possible in every moment of your life however it is.

    Building our capacity for happiness also raises our happiness set point. This is the personal baseline level of happiness that we return to within six months to a year after any kind of significant life event, whether that event is charged with high levels of happiness or unhappiness. With practices of happiness, we steadily increase our set point level and our capacity for resiliency to it.

    The confluence of this growing field of research clearly points to the fact that we can become happier. Our historical narratives on happiness and unhappiness only become destiny if we consistently sustain the practices that have the power to make them possible.

    Until people get this research, they continue to be constrained by old unsupported mythologies that happiness cannot be learned. In this world, we’re stuck with beliefs that question the possibility that we can be happier. We’re inaccurately suspicious that “too much happiness” erodes our capacity for passion and change.

    Nonetheless, we have evidence now that we can cultivate our capacity for happiness in our lives and at work, in our communities and networks. And the significance of happiness is immense in the way it impacts our personal and collective well-being and thrivancy. Our capacity for happiness is unlimited and its implications for sustainable thrivancy is nothing less than profound on all scales.

    Reality is that each moment we are given is a moment of choice. We can choose to practice unhappiness or practice happiness. Happiness is the possibility always available to us. Happiness is a choice.

  • The Happiness Imperative for Leaders

    • 19 Mar 2012
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    We now have evidence that happier people lead to higher levels of passion and engagement at work. Happier people also lead to happier customers and clients. And happiness at work spreads into the rest of people’s health, relationships, life, and well-being.

    Leaders in organizations, formal and informal, are uniquely positioned to cultivate a happiness-friendly organizational culture.

    Life in the Old Days of Happiness Illiteracy

    Before we had the compelling and growing body of research on happiness we have today, happiness was considered to be a byproduct of genetic predispositions or circumstantial variables. The old narrative placed happiness outside the actionable domains of intention and learning.

    In this world, the most a leader could hope for is being given enough surrogate resources to literally “compensate” people for their intrinsic and intractable unhappiness. This is the model that has been the foundation of the current state of organizational happiness. In the US alone, the 75% of employees who are mostly unhappy at work costs over $300 billion annually.

    The New Happiness Imperative

    Thanks to the emergence of happiness research over the past decade, we have come a long way in understanding the neuroscience of happiness and the practical and empowering implications.

    We now know that happiness is a practice. It is a function of how we focus and engage in our world. And as such, happiness can be learned and cultivated. It is an intentional possibility and actionable strategy when we know how to make it actionable.

    In “The Joy of Thriving” we talk about five prime practices of happiness that make happiness more accessible anywhere anytime: appreciation, generosity, interest, lightness, and easy. Each has the power as a principle of practice to transform leadership.

    Transformed leadership creates happier organizations because it designs conversations and practices that invite the practices of happiness. The evidence is now clear: happiness is a choice of how we focus and engage in our world; it can be learned and developed; and it has profound implications for personal and collective thrivancy.

    The Possibilities of Transformed Leadership

    Here is an introduction to some of the possibilities.

    Appreciation We can begin or end meetings with people telling success and progress stories featuring explicit appreciation for contributors to each scenario. We can schedule time for people to regularly email or text thanks to someone who has made their life in any way easier or better. We can invite people to design beauty into their work spaces. We can regularly invite people to share their vision for their work group’s impact.

    Generosity We can set a practice expectation that everyone in our group spends up to a specific percentage, like 5%, of their week giving someone else help and receiving help from others in the organization. We can make some of our spaces and resources available to people in other work groups. We can set the expectation that everyone will weekly do some random act of kindness for someone else.

    Interest We can ask everyone to set quarterly new learning targets and give people time to share their gains. We can sustain accessible talent directories for anyone looking for peer2peer learning. We can translate all performance and outcome measures into learning measures that we share as a work group. We structure every meeting and presentation with participant inquiries and questions, which is to say shift from an information push to pull model, to build a vibrant and relentless culture of curiosity.

    Lightness We as leaders can model a healthy sense of humor and perspective. We can have regular half-days where everyone goes outside the organization to explore and play with something or someone new. We can create and utilize physical and virtual water coolers for impromptu conversations that make strategic serendipity more possible. We can actively encourage the ha-ha as provocation to the ah-ha.

    Easy We can consistently engage people in simplifying anything: systems, decision making, and access to resources. We can use simple and easy as design principles in designing every aspect of what we produce and how we produce it including how research, communication, learning, and accomplishments occur. We can teach people how to have easier conversations, organize projects and time more easily, and make their happiness at work more contagious to the rest of their lives.

    The Call for Change

    It takes a whole new kind of leadership to create happier organizations. Current practices, even those deemed unquestionable, are yielding high levels and costs of unhappiness at work. We have sufficient data demonstrating that. There is no evidential support for conventional leadership practices that naively expect performance to exceed attitude.

    Fortunately, making the transition doesn’t require expensive investments in capital improvements. Happiness is a practice not a purchase. It starts with giving formal and informal leaders in organizations new levels of happiness literacy. Leaders will care about happiness indicators in their organizations in an actionable way at the rate they are exposed to the compelling research on happiness that invites practical everyday implication possibilities.

    The new research profoundly holds old management practices and perspectives directly accountability for the fact that worldwide, according to Gallup’s annual research, fewer than 20% of employees feel the happiness of daily engagement of their strengths by their employers. And recent studies indicate that the vast majority of managers are equally unaware of this reality, the costs of it, and the way forward.

    The way forward is educating leaders so they discover and deploy the power to create happier organizations where, at the end of the day, everyone gains.

    It is an imperative for any leader who is passionate about the power of engagement and the possibilities of change. We can expect happier people to embrace engagement and change.
  • The New Shift in Community Happiness Indicators

    • 18 Mar 2012
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    Our metaphors for community growth indicators are in an important transition.

    We’re talking more about cultivating communities than building them because we’re moving from the lens of economics to the lens of eudainomics. Eudaimonia is Greek for the happiness of well-being. Eudainomics is the currency of well-being. In this context, cultivating becomes a more apt metaphor than building when it comes to the thrivancy of communities as living systems.

    We now know that community thrivancy cannot be measured naively in economic terms. Only indicators of well-being point to what anyone would call a flourishing community, whether we’re talking about the scales of neighborhoods, villages, cities, or regions.

    We now have abundant evidence that happiness is the practice of how we focus on and engage in the world. There are five prime happiness practices that rewire our brain and rewrite our narratives: appreciation, generosity, interest, lightness, and easy. Each provides a compelling framework for new community thrivancy indicators.

    Here are examples of simple indicators that utilize each practice as a design principle in cultivating thriving communities.

    Appreciation

    • There are accessible spaces in the community that offer natural and crafted beauty
    • Community celebrations feature public appreciation for community success stories

    Generosity

    • People know others in the community they can offer help to and request help from
    • People share and volunteer their talents and stories with others in the community

    Interest

    • There are always new things and people to discover in the community
    • There are classes, workshops, and learning events available in the community

    Lightness

    • There is evidence of spontaneous interactions and gatherings in the community
    • It is common to see smiles, hear live music and see children playing in the community

    Easy

    • People have easy access to good schools, health care, jobs, and fresh food and water in the community
    • It is easy for visitors and residents to find what they’re looking for in the community

    These can be trended through systematic observations and surveys. Mapping trends can indicate areas of strength that provide contexts for future focus. We can map happiness trends by geographies and generations when the intention is to cultivate more happiness in targeted contexts within the community.

    We can target specific contexts relative to the kinds of resources we want to grow. These including making a community more elder, children, employer, entrepreneur, artist, farmer, visitor, funder, or family friendly. Each of these sectors bring and receive unique value in the community. And each grows at the rate of the growth of happiness indicators.

    Happiness is emerging as one of the most compelling qualities of communities that flourish. Now that we know how to design it into the fabric of communities, happiness is both the cause and effect of thriving communities.

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    10-time author and designer with a focus on change in organizations and communities. HappinessChoice.com. Contact Jack at jack(at)happinesschoice(dot)com

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